do feminists dye their hair?

Do feminists dye their hair?
the short answer is yes, of course they do. Feminists can and do wear makeup, shave their legs, not shave their legs, dye their hair, have casual sex, are celibate.... you get the idea. In a perfect world, women would be able to choose to do the above mentioned things, and more, depending on what they wanted.

in the real world, however, it is not as straight forward as that. If women choose to NOT do things that are expected of them, there is a price to pay.

Choosing to not dye your hair, for example. When nearly every woman under 64 is dying, or somehow colour treating their hair, it is hard to be one of the few to not do so. You stand out. You look older. You are going to be noticed. And this isn't always bad. If you want to look older, that is. And stand out for it.

Does this mean you HAVE to dye your hair? Of course not.

I am 44, my hair is 70% (or more) white. The rest is dark dark brown. I look about 5ish with it undid. No one questions that I have a grown son. People assume my friend, 12 years younger, is my daughter. Senior citizens hit on me....

At the same time, none of that means I have to dye my hair. No one has a gun, or even a stick, pointed in my direction.
But anyone who thinks that means I really have a choice, is ignoring the bigger picture.

If I ignore that, I am am denying the experiences of myself, and other women.

A better question, though, would be why so very many women dye their hair.

It is costly, time consuming and doesn't actually make us healthier, or have any tangible physical impact on us. It is bad for the environment, and possibly for us as well.

Yet for as long as we have recorded history, we have been dying our hair.

For fun? sometimes. I started dying my hair for fun.  I was 14 when my mom brought home my first dye. Flirt, in a dark plum. It coated my dark hair and made it have a purple hue in the sun. I loved it!!!

I started getting a few stray white hairs at 15. By 30 I had to dye my hair to cover the white. And I did.

Recently I decided enough of dying my hair. I let it grow out. I loved it!!!
I loved seeing and feeling my own hair.. for the first time since I was in my teens. It was healthy, thick, and it was cool seeing my own colour.

Until people started assuming I was in my 50's... and even then, I figured it was okay.

I am also dating. And, lets be honest, I am not going to be attracting guys my own age, or even in their 50s, with white hair. Men tend to want to date 5-10 years younger (minimum). That doesn't leave me a lot of men to choose from.

Again, yes, it is a choice. I choose to not shave my legs, I choose to not obsess over my weight, and I chose to not dye my hair.

And I also realized that by those choices, I was seriously limiting the men attracted to me. Something had to give. If I liked it or not..

So I dyed my hair. I have three times the profile views on POF in the first few days of posting pictures of me with none white hair..

(I had one guy who originally wanted to meet me, cancel when he saw the white haired pictures. I posted both dyed and non dyed.. both pictures in the last 6 months. Same weight, glasses and all.. just the hair different. And he said no thanks.. )