biology and attraction

As an 'older' woman dating, who was once a younger woman dating, I can't help but notice the 'trend' of older to much older men preferring to date young women.

The most messaged age for a woman is 26, according to some statistics, and I am sure other studies might quote a slightly younger or older age as THE most desirable, we cannot get past the fact that youth is VERY attractive to a large group of men.

To the point that is is completely normal, and unquestioned that younger women are in fact, THE most desirable.

When I was younger, I assumed when I was older myself, I would understand this fixation on youth, from men.

Well, her I am, 44 with a 27 year old son. And, I am not the least bit sexually attracted to men my sons age. In fact, I have a hard time seeing people more than 7 years up or down from my age as potential partners, or sexually attracted to them.

Now, to be fair, we all have different things that turn our cranks. Some people like youth, some people like nerds, some people like slim, and on and on.. some people even like beards, canes, and vests. Different strokes, and all that. Diversity makes the world interesting.

But, here is where I have issues.

When people argue, BUT SCIENCE!!

These science lovers argue that men are mainly interested in dating younger women as biology dictates they can reproduce with younger and thusly more fertile, women. They can't help it!! It is beyond their control, and completely natural to be attracted to younger women.. cuts BABIES.

Really? REALLY? men LOVERS THEM SOME BABIES. Cuts BIOLOGY!!

If this were true, that NATURE and BIOLOGY dictate that men are attracted to youth because hey just NEED BABIES so badly.. well, what were they doing with their youth? Where they all out having families and BABIES?

man, 'OMG DID you see that hugely pregnant lady! Her husband is the LUCKIEST MAN ever!! I bet that lucky bastard is having TWINS!!!' he enthuses.."why, I would happily work 2 jobs to support a large family, sadly my wife and I have only had 4 children.. and I LOVE THEM SO much.'

Man to his partner 'I think it is time to get little Timmy his first baby doll toy, I think it is only natural that we foster fatherly feelings in him. No doubt he will want a large family, like his dad, lots of babies!!"

Men at the 'water cooler' .. man 1bragging..'my wife is still chubby from our last baby, it almost looks like she is still pregnant..' man 2 'wow you are one lucky man.. my wife only wanted 2 children, and a break in-between... i sure wish she were younger and could have many many more babies. Sadly we we waited a few years to start a family. You were so smart to marry young, even if you have to work double shifts and can't afford decent housing, hobbies or a nice car, IT IS SO worth it to have lots of babies. most natural thing in the world."

And of course, with men JUST LOVING them some babies, we NEVER hear about 'dead beat dads' or a man responding with ANYTHING LESS THAN UNBRIDLED PASSION when his partner announces her pregnancy. CUS BIOLOGY!!

Right? MEN LOVE and NEED them some babies. THAT explains men in their 40s-60s looking to date women in their 20s!! MY GODS this is so simple! how can we deny men babies? Sure, it SEEMS unfair to deny a women her youth having babies for old men, but these men CLEARLY could not have babies in their youth, no doubt they were all locked up and CRUELY PREVENTED from having babies in their own youth. It is only natural they are seeking out younger women, not due to ATTRACTION or social conditioning, but mainly and almost exclusively due to biology.

Yes, it sounds ridiculous. Yet I and other women are supposed to understand then men our age chase women 10-20 years younger. We are told to not be bitter, or silly, it isn't personal, it is BIOLOGY and you can't fight nature!

and the young women subjected to years of unwanted attentions from older men, their feelings and preferences are ignored. they are told to 'be flattered' and to understand, its biology. if you look 'breedable' you have to expect men can't control their urges and will solicit your attentions.
even if you are as young as 12, which is when MANY women start to experience the sexual attentions of older men. Doubt me? Honestly, I don't really care. I have talked to enough women, and, I am a women, and I am telling you, this is pretty standard.

but, do your own research if you need to. I am not doing that here. this is my blog, my opinions. based on my life, my experiences.

moving on. I think we can see that the baby / biology argument is false.

So, why DO men want younger women? Some men are honest enough to say, they simply LIKE the look, the energy, the way younger women make them feel.
Okay, fair enough :)
You like her energy as you yourself have the energy of a 20 year old? Really? I won't even argue this one. If you honestly believe you have that level of energy, go for it. BUT don't shame her into staying home and chilling when she wants to go out, okay?

Men like how a younger woman makes them feel. At least this is honest. Shallow, but honest.

Yet, I think there is another reason men like younger women. IF they only like the energy and 'youthful' looks, they would date young looking, energetic women their own age. BUT....they don't.. they are drawn to the inexperience of the younger women. They want to be with someone who 'doesn't nag them' to get a job, pay a bill, or 'make something' of their lives. They harp on how women their own age are too 'baggy and demanding'.

Really, do a google search why dating a younger women is a good thing...

Men actually admit to this, without shame.

Now, am I upset some immature and possibly irresponsible men want to capitalize on dating a younger woman? Do I think they should be denied this because I find it distasteful?

NO. But I do think we need to stop excusing this behaviour with the cries of 'but biology' and hold men to a higher standard.

From the ill effects we see in hollywood where a woman plays mother to men OLDER than her, to denying the feelings and experiences of young women, this failed thinking and excuse making only hurts decent men, and many many women and young ladies.